Who is my Neighbor?

A reflection on the gospel story of the good Samaritan.

“And who is my neighbor?” In short, everyone; and this includes all who have hurt us or are considered our enemy. Jesus busts wide open any kind of prejudice in this gospel passage today. He tells us to love everyone. But, it is safe to say that we can prioritize our relationships and responsibilities too. We will always love our friends more than strangers and definitely more than our enemies. But because we love others more does not give us license to hate.

In fact, it’s vital to our relationship with God to love our neighbor – even our enemies – for the scriptures tell us, “How can you say you love God who is invisible, if you cannot love your [neighbor] who is visible?”

The National Conference of Catechetical Leaders states: “Our morality, as Christians, is rooted in two points: human dignity and community…human dignity is rooted in the biblical truth that we are created in the image and likeness of God [and] our understanding of community is found in the model of the Trinity.”

It’s easy to grasp our friend’s dignity but often we are confounded by our enemy’s behavior. Some people can be such jerks in our life that it causes us to struggle with finding an image of God in them. Despite our suffering and possible right for justice, our own humility is the only means to grow in finding that image of God in our enemy.

As Christians, we are called to be like water. “Water easily benefits all things without struggle. Yet it abides in places that people hate.” In Living Together, Dietrich Bonhoeffer puts it another way, “Nobody is too good for the meanest service.”

Bonhoeffer continues by stating, “We learn from the discipline of humility that we must not spare our hand where it can perform a service and that we do not assume our schedule is our own to manage, but allow it to be arranged by God.” And further, “Only where hands are not too good for deeds of love and mercy in everyday helpfulness can the mouth joyfully and convincingly proclaim the message of God’s love and mercy.” By loving our neighbor – especially enemies – we come to learn of God’s love for us more richly and then can proclaim that love with deeper authenticity. Even from a Machiavellian perspective, it’s in our best interests to love others!

But as Marva Dawn, author of Reaching Out Without Dumbing Down, points out, our contemporary culture is increasingly individualistic and self absorbed. The question of our Christian duty to love our neighbor is sterilized with reaching out to far away places and global concerns – I’ve done a good thing when I buy fair trade products (all good acts in and of themselves and we ought to do them) – but we must consider the local community as a priority. How do I tangibly love the person in the pew next to me? I can sit in a pew next to a stranger but can I hold their hand during the Lord’s Prayer?

Our brother or sister in the Lord needs community (fellowship with other Christians), especially when he or she becomes uncertain and discouraged in his or her hope for a holy life. The Christian needs his or her brother as a bearer and proclaimer of the divine word of salvation.

As Christians, we are called to be community; a community through Jesus Christ and in Jesus Christ, no more, no less. It is a duty built upon humility and openness and while it is a duty, it is not without reward. We discover God in and through one another. We receive encouragement in difficult times. We find love when we thought all was lost. This is a founding belief and experience of the Church. As Saint Paul told the Christian community of Philippi, “Do not think of your own interests alone, but look to the interest of others.” (Phil. 2:2-4.)